I empathize with the emotions you must’ve felt when choosing to carry the fetus full-term. I also have a great deal of respect for the fact that you stayed committed to the adoption plan that you had agreed upon with the new parents. Putting these recognizable strong character qualities aside I feel it was unwise not to abort the pregnancy. Being as unexpected as it was, at your age, keeping the baby to full-term is both irresponsible and far from without significant implications. It may be argued that if anything you learned responsibility from this experience, but that’s only true to an extent. Through the nine months of pregnancy you had to face decisions far above any normal sixteen-year-old’s maturity level, respect. Unfortunately, this also means that you skip finalizing/concluding your childhood that you have a right to. On top of all that, both you and the said child is going to experience emotional strife because of this later in life almost undoubtedly. Abortion is legal to protect young women, like yourself, in these situations, as in the circumstances of unwanted pregnancy for various reasons/causes. Here, that right should have been utilized.
It’s certainly a lesson a repercussions. Have sex? Well, you might get pregnant. That’s just how it works. Teenagers get plenty of material from the media about boy meets girl, but not about the actual fact of boy meets girl, out pops kid. Because of this teenage pregnancy is expected to a certain degree of the population of adolescents. When these adolescents get hit by the ‘out pops kid’ part of boy meets girl things can get a little complicated, because it’s not as simple as it sounds. ‘Out pops kid’ includes nine months of pregnancy, deciding to give up or keep the baby, as well as dealing with whatever decision you made for the rest of your life. What does that mean? Considering you specifically chose to let another family adopt the child, it means the family will eventually tell the child they’re adopted— if they’re decent—and he or she will most likely want to contact you in time. Closed adoption or not there are ways of doing this, and if they are determined they will find you. Then there’s you. If you don’t want to know the child at all then they go through all of the emotions that go with being rejected by someone they have a natural connection with: depression, anxiety, etc.. If you do want to meet them then you have a happy little reunion, or you don’t. Happy reunion means you’ll probably feel depression for the rest your life because you weren’t there raising them like you may feel you should have. Bad reunion makes both you and the child feel a form of shame. Another separate situation being that you want to contact them. They may feel guilty and anxiety from turning you away, which also gives you different variations of possible depression.
Yes, granted, you are slightly more responsible than you were before. Letting something alive mature to a being inside you is undoubtably going to do so. For nine months you’re responsible for diet and health in senses like not smoking or drinking. Not to mention that you were being overran by tons and tons of hormones which you may mistake for emotional attachment. In turn, you could’ve gone back on your adoption agreement, but you didn’t. All these things did make you more responsible because you had to care for something other than yourself. The truth of the matter is there are many women out there who have had more than one abortion because they had to face unwanted pregnancy more than several times. This debunks the theory that you learn to be responsible with sex, ergo only being responsible more so to a point. One thing that being pregnant and making these hard decisions definitely does though, is it makes you grow up. I’m not saying all the way, but significantly. You may be skipping and unmeasurable amount of youth. At this stage in life you were at the end of your childhood. Later in life would you be happier or more depressed that you didn’t fulfill your childhood? It’s impossible to say, but a fifty-fifty chance is more than anyone wants to take.
Abortion is not something to fear out of spite of others. It is every woman’s right to choose in this day and age. If you get pregnant and you don’t want to have a baby you don’t have to. This saves women every day from the implications from horrible things like rape, or even just having to go through life wondering how their child is growing up. There’s no reason to be afraid of others. Since there are things in place like the fourteenth amendment women have this equal right to choose completely privately. Many pro-life activists like to use Roe versus Wade decision in another light. They try to turn it around and make the point that Roe now regrets her decision, and thinks that abortion is wrong. They quote her shame that she carries with her every day. This is all they hear. What they don’t hear is that antiabortionists took her to the abortion clinic and showed her the freezer where they kept the parts after abortions happen, as in dead fetuses. This is guilt by association. Because the fetuses have gotten to the point of having a human baby like shape she associates them with human babies. This would shock anyone. That shock, put her over the edge making her switch sides, understandably. If you don’t have the stomach for science, don’t look in the freezer, because it will be emotional, and it will make you upset.
You are very courageous person. Doing what you did take strong, notable character traits that you should be proud of. On the other hand the smart decision would’ve been to abort the fetus at the beginning of the pregnancy. I feel like the implications of this are going to follow you later in life making things more difficult than they have to be. I urge you to be prepared and mentally ready as well when they catch up with you. Sincerely,
I empathize with the emotions you must’ve felt when choosing to carry the fetus full-term. I also have a great deal of respect for the fact that you stayed committed to the adoption plan that you had agreed upon with the new parents. Putting these recognizable strong character qualities aside I feel it was unwise not to abort the pregnancy. Being as unexpected as it was, at your age, keeping the baby to full-term is both irresponsible and far from without significant implications. It may be argued that if anything you learned responsibility from this experience, but that’s only true to an extent. Through the nine months of pregnancy you had to face decisions far above any normal sixteen-year-old’s maturity level, respect. Unfortunately, this also means that you skip finalizing/concluding your childhood that you have a right to. On top of all that, both you and the said child is going to experience emotional strife because of this later in life almost undoubtedly. Abortion is legal to protect young women, like yourself, in these situations, as in the circumstances of unwanted pregnancy for various reasons/causes. Here, that right should have been utilized.
It’s certainly a lesson a repercussions. Have sex? Well, you might get pregnant. That’s just how it works. Teenagers get plenty of material from the media about boy meets girl, but not about the actual fact of boy meets girl, out pops kid. Because of this teenage pregnancy is expected to a certain degree of the population of adolescents. When these adolescents get hit by the ‘out pops kid’ part of boy meets girl things can get a little complicated, because it’s not as simple as it sounds. ‘Out pops kid’ includes nine months of pregnancy, deciding to give up or keep the baby, as well as dealing with whatever decision you made for the rest of your life. What does that mean? Considering you specifically chose to let another family adopt the child, it means the family will eventually tell the child they’re adopted— if they’re decent—and he or she will most likely want to contact you in time. Closed adoption or not there are ways of doing this, and if they are determined they will find you. Then there’s you. If you don’t want to know the child at all then they go through all of the emotions that go with being rejected by someone they have a natural connection with: depression, anxiety, etc.. If you do want to meet them then you have a happy little reunion, or you don’t. Happy reunion means you’ll probably feel depression for the rest your life because you weren’t there raising them like you may feel you should have. Bad reunion makes both you and the child feel a form of shame. Another separate situation being that you want to contact them. They may feel guilty and anxiety from turning you away, which also gives you different variations of possible depression.
Yes, granted, you are slightly more responsible than you were before. Letting something alive mature to a being inside you is undoubtably going to do so. For nine months you’re responsible for diet and health in senses like not smoking or drinking. Not to mention that you were being overran by tons and tons of hormones which you may mistake for emotional attachment. In turn, you could’ve gone back on your adoption agreement, but you didn’t. All these things did make you more responsible because you had to care for something other than yourself. The truth of the matter is there are many women out there who have had more than one abortion because they had to face unwanted pregnancy more than several times. This debunks the theory that you learn to be responsible with sex, ergo only being responsible more so to a point. One thing that being pregnant and making these hard decisions definitely does though, is it makes you grow up. I’m not saying all the way, but significantly. You may be skipping and unmeasurable amount of youth. At this stage in life you were at the end of your childhood. Later in life would you be happier or more depressed that you didn’t fulfill your childhood? It’s impossible to say, but a fifty-fifty chance is more than anyone wants to take.
Abortion is not something to fear out of spite of others. It is every woman’s right to choose in this day and age. If you get pregnant and you don’t want to have a baby you don’t have to. This saves women every day from the implications from horrible things like rape, or even just having to go through life wondering how their child is growing up. There’s no reason to be afraid of others. Since there are things in place like the fourteenth amendment women have this equal right to choose completely privately. Many pro-life activists like to use Roe versus Wade decision in another light. They try to turn it around and make the point that Roe now regrets her decision, and thinks that abortion is wrong. They quote her shame that she carries with her every day. This is all they hear. What they don’t hear is that antiabortionists took her to the abortion clinic and showed her the freezer where they kept the parts after abortions happen, as in dead fetuses. This is guilt by association. Because the fetuses have gotten to the point of having a human baby like shape she associates them with human babies. This would shock anyone. That shock, put her over the edge making her switch sides, understandably. If you don’t have the stomach for science, don’t look in the freezer, because it will be emotional, and it will make you upset.
You are very courageous person. Doing what you did take strong, notable character traits that you should be proud of. On the other hand the smart decision would’ve been to abort the fetus at the beginning of the pregnancy. I feel like the implications of this are going to follow you later in life making things more difficult than they have to be. I urge you to be prepared and mentally ready as well when they catch up with you.
Sincerely,
Talia T.